Anna B.

Aug 30

I’m Writing This Dressed as a Woman

Why would I do something like this?


Photo by Dev Asangbam on Unsplash


So many people in society have a problem with men who identify as women.

They don’t get it. It’s understandable. Women are so beautiful, and they appear to be so light and delicate. It must be a fetish or sexual thing. It has to be! Why else would a man dress up as a woman and go out in the world? It must be to get their rocks off!

That’s what most people are probably thinking. They are NOT getting the message about the medical condition that is gender dysphoria.

Gender dysphoria is a term that describes a sense of unease that a person may have because of a mismatch between their biological sex and their gender identity. This sense of unease or dissatisfaction may be so intense it can lead to depression and anxiety and have a harmful impact on daily life.

Nobody disputes that (to use one of the right-wing media’s favorite words), my biological sex is male, but my internal sense of gender identity is female.

What is gender identity?

Gender identity is each person’s internal and individual experience of gender. It is a person’s sense of being a woman, a man, both, neither, or anywhere along the gender spectrum. A person’s gender identity may be the same as or different from their birth-assigned sex.

So when you have gender dysphoria, your brain is telling you that your sex and gender don’t match. It’s not a choice, it just happens. Biologically.

For me, I think about gender all of the time. I love to write about gender because it calms my brain. I also get the chance to put out as much correct information out there as I can, so people know that the media is lying to them about transgender people.

You don’t have a choice to what your gender identity is.

If you feel like you should have been born female and your biological sex is male, oh well! You are stuck with these female thoughts. There’s nothing that can be done about it.

If you’re lucky, you have a strong, loving, support system at home and at work. When you tell your family, friends, and co workers, that you’re transgender, they don’t try to kill you, or push you away, or fire you. Instead they try to help you and learn what it means to be transgender together.

The right-wing media and religious conservatives are breaking up families and life long friendships with misinformation about what it means to be transgender. This is the real tragedy here. So many good people have been lost to violence and self harm. We need to make sure that the truth of this medical condition gets out into the world. We don’t have the kind of money backing us up like the politicians and the church has. We just have to keep doing the best we can.