Author: patrick

When I knew I was Transgender

I am often asked, “When did you know you were transgender?” or some variation of that question. And while some trans folks can recall the exact moment it dawned on them, that’s not true for me. I had these series of ah-ha moments throughout my life that I call my lost boy memories. These lost boy memories are brief moments that made me aware that I was different, but in a way I couldn’t put into words yet. Looking back now, it’s clear these were moments that the little lost boy inside was trying to find his way out....

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No, dad, she’s definitely a girl…

The staring was starting to become awkward. I glanced down, checking that my clothing was in order: faded orange boilersuit, covered in grease and cargo, and a pair of scuffed steel-capped boots. I reached to my waist and confirmed that I’d remembered to leave my belt knife on board. I shrugged, pushed a few euros across the counter to the shop assistant, collected my snacks, and turned to leave. The little girl couldn’t have been more than six. Rather than staring at me from across the shop, as she had been since I entered, she was now planted firmly...

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Trans Mentality: One Woman’s Story from the Inside

This story is 100% true. To protect the identity of my friend, her name has been changed to Pamela. This could be any trans woman who seeks assistance from a mental health facility,  I came home from running errands to three voice mails on my phone which I left charging on the night stand. Her tone went steadily from slightly annoyed to panicked and tearful. Just before arriving I received a text reading: “They are about to declare me 5150 because I’m asking to be released and they won’t let me go.” I sat on a plastic bench which just was too uncomfortable to have not been designed to be that way, and about fifteen minutes later, my friend Pamela came out of the Restricted Area. Tears were still streaming day-old eyeliner down her cheeks, and she was clumsily carrying her stuffed bunny and a duffel bag. “Get me the fuck out of here…” she stated, striding half in fear, half in something I can’t to this day identify, out the door before I could even stand up. Pamela is a trans woman who transitioned a little later in life than she would have liked. Gender dysphoria got the better of her at the age of 35 and she decided that she just couldn’t lie to the world any longer. After two years, she lost her job and hadn’t...

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Northern Ireland Charities receive donations from The Hospital Saturday Fund

    Northern Ireland Charities receive donations from The Hospital Saturday Fund together with the Launch of a Fundraising Partnership with Macmillan Cancer Support   We at Focus: The Identity Trust were delighted to join The Hospital Saturday Fund at their recent charity reception at Queen’s University. Our Frances Shiels received our  award on our behalf to continue to provide support to transgender individuals and their families in this part of the world.Twelve Northern Ireland charities received donations from The Hospital Saturday Fund (HSF) at a special reception hosted at Queen’s University Belfast on 4 September 2019. In total,...

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‘I feared my husband was having an affair – but he was actually the other woman’

Dad of two Warren was living a lie telling wife Kelly ‘I’m not having an affair – there’s no one else. The truth is I want to be a woman’ By Karen Pasquali-Jones   News Any woman who finds a strange ­lipstick in the glove compartment of her husband’s van will come to one unpleasant conclusion. But Kelly Allen’s suspicions could not be further from the truth. Her hunky 6ft 2ins husband Warren was not cheating because the only other woman in his life was – himself. The couple had been married for more than a decade and had...

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